How your expectations of others define you; a knee jerk reaction


According to the Oxford dictionary, the word definition implies ‘what is meant by a word, context, action, etc…’. A definition is also intended to communicate something that may not be directly expressed! Hence, how you define yourself may be explicit or insinuated through your actions. How you define yourself, however, is unlikely to be seenContinue reading “How your expectations of others define you; a knee jerk reaction”

You may be viewing rejection the wrong way!


I’ve found that there are two main reasons why people get rejected! You are either being devalued by the wrong people or undervalued by the right people! If it’s the former, rejoice and sing your hallelujahs! You’ve probably dodged a bullet! However, if it is the latter, then there might be room for personal growth!Continue reading “You may be viewing rejection the wrong way!”

The age of apathy; the middle ground between love and hate.


I imagine being given two oranges!; one with so much juice and seeds, and the other, however, simply being like the first without seeds! I like to picture love as an act that proceeds to bear more good fruit! And while it’s been thought that hate is the opposite of love, for me it seems,Continue reading “The age of apathy; the middle ground between love and hate.”

A tsp of forgiveness, a TBS of grace and a liter of love


I was recently caught up in a quagmire, where I struggled to process an emotion! From my previous blogs, you will know that I am big on the virtues forgiveness and love. I’d like to think that grace is the link between forgiveness and love. To show unmerited favor (grace), one would need to possessContinue reading “A tsp of forgiveness, a TBS of grace and a liter of love”

The difference between wishers and doers; the art of discipline


“Build castles in the air but support them with pillars” Shared authorship James Annan and Samuel Y. Annan I remember hearing these words from the lips of my dad and for a very long time, it’s been a principle of mine! I called daddy this morning to verify the source of the quote and IContinue reading “The difference between wishers and doers; the art of discipline”

The 3 types of social media consumers.


TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN About a year ago, I decided to cut down on my screen time. It wasn’t necessarily because I wasn’t being productive in areas I needed to be- or so I thought. However, multiplying an average of 6 hours by 7 days by 4 weeks by 12 months clearly spoke volumes.Continue reading “The 3 types of social media consumers.”

Growing your emotional intelligence; Respect


Have you ever been so angry at a mate you ‘screamed’ so hard at him/her to let out all your frustration? However, after the scream, you got even angrier for having to scream so hard? Well maybe it was not a scream and maybe it was not even someone you could potentially scream at toContinue reading “Growing your emotional intelligence; Respect”

The cool part about the ‘I’ of the INTJ spectrum;


Have you tried spending time with yourself lately? No, I do not mean avoiding people. I mean spending an alone time with ‘yours truly’ because you relish it! Also, alone is not equal to lonely; let’s get the definitions right. Being alone simply means being in a physical space where no other person is, ORContinue reading “The cool part about the ‘I’ of the INTJ spectrum;”

Intercepting an INTJ’s neuronal pathway- An Anecdotal Poem


Hash they said… and the louder my synapses chimed with exciting rigor. To seal the lips of my mouth, is to magnify to voices within. Kukua anthonyin Where are your emotions, they asked…. I answered, why do you choose to bypass your cortical activity? kukua anthonyin He said, I have come to reveal to youContinue reading “Intercepting an INTJ’s neuronal pathway- An Anecdotal Poem”

Low expectations and a low excitement threshold; a seemingly direct and proportional relationship.


I take full responsibility for my actions I take full responsibility for the consequences thereof Yet, each day, I’m reminded of the numerous theories of things that may predict the brightness of my day. I’m reminded that like a door needs a custom key, so do I need to be chiseled and refined for theContinue reading “Low expectations and a low excitement threshold; a seemingly direct and proportional relationship.”