Still on the topic of social media: Keeping it real


Are we losing our humanity- Social media post interpretation caution: A timeline that always elicits excitement does not mean the account holder is PRETENDING ! I see people make blanket statements about how people who appear to be happy are not really happy!! I think that’s just nonsensical. You just can’t know anyone’s intent justContinue reading “Still on the topic of social media: Keeping it real”

How your expectations of others define you; a knee jerk reaction


According to the Oxford dictionary, the word definition implies ‘what is meant by a word, context, action, etc…’. A definition is also intended to communicate something that may not be directly expressed! Hence, how you define yourself may be explicit or insinuated through your actions. How you define yourself, however, is unlikely to be seenContinue reading “How your expectations of others define you; a knee jerk reaction”

You may be viewing rejection the wrong way!


I’ve found that there are two main reasons why people get rejected! You are either being devalued by the wrong people or undervalued by the right people! If it’s the former, rejoice and sing your hallelujahs! You’ve probably dodged a bullet! However, if it is the latter, then there might be room for personal growth!Continue reading “You may be viewing rejection the wrong way!”

A tsp of forgiveness, a TBS of grace and a liter of love


I was recently caught up in a quagmire, where I struggled to process an emotion! From my previous blogs, you will know that I am big on the virtues forgiveness and love. I’d like to think that grace is the link between forgiveness and love. To show unmerited favor (grace), one would need to possessContinue reading “A tsp of forgiveness, a TBS of grace and a liter of love”

The difference between wishers and doers; the art of discipline


“Build castles in the air but support them with pillars” Shared authorship James Annan and Samuel Y. Annan I remember hearing these words from the lips of my dad and for a very long time, it’s been a principle of mine! I called daddy this morning to verify the source of the quote and IContinue reading “The difference between wishers and doers; the art of discipline”

Growing your emotional intelligence; Respect


Have you ever been so angry at a mate you ‘screamed’ so hard at him/her to let out all your frustration? However, after the scream, you got even angrier for having to scream so hard? Well maybe it was not a scream and maybe it was not even someone you could potentially scream at toContinue reading “Growing your emotional intelligence; Respect”

The cool part about the ‘I’ of the INTJ spectrum;


Have you tried spending time with yourself lately? No, I do not mean avoiding people. I mean spending an alone time with ‘yours truly’ because you relish it! Also, alone is not equal to lonely; let’s get the definitions right. Being alone simply means being in a physical space where no other person is, ORContinue reading “The cool part about the ‘I’ of the INTJ spectrum;”

Intercepting an INTJ’s neuronal pathway- An Anecdotal Poem


Hash they said… and the louder my synapses chimed with exciting rigor. To seal the lips of my mouth, is to magnify to voices within. Kukua anthonyin Where are your emotions, they asked…. I answered, why do you choose to bypass your cortical activity? kukua anthonyin He said, I have come to reveal to youContinue reading “Intercepting an INTJ’s neuronal pathway- An Anecdotal Poem”

The Venusian INTJ


Dr John Gray, in his book ‘Men are from Mars, women are from Venus’, must have totally missed a sub-cohort of the Venusian species or just maybe, not all women are from Venus. There is also the possibility that the INTJs might have been exiled from Venus- that would certainly be plausible. I’ve been tryingContinue reading “The Venusian INTJ”

The irrationality of jealousy; focusing on the wrong variable.


Ms X is looking at a reflection of herself in a mirror. She is wearing a white dress and a high heel. Ms Zee comes to stand right next to her, wearing the dark version of the same dress but there’s something about Zee’s dress that stands out and it doesn’t seem to have anythingContinue reading “The irrationality of jealousy; focusing on the wrong variable.”