Growing your emotional intelligence; Respect


Have you ever been so angry at a mate you ‘screamed’ so hard at him/her to let out all your frustration? However, after the scream, you got even angrier for having to scream so hard? Well maybe it was not a scream and maybe it was not even someone you could potentially scream at toContinue reading “Growing your emotional intelligence; Respect”

The cool part about the ‘I’ of the INTJ spectrum;


Have you tried spending time with yourself lately? No, I do not mean avoiding people. I mean spending an alone time with ‘yours truly’ because you relish it! Also, alone is not equal to lonely; let’s get the definitions right. Being alone simply means being in a physical space where no other person is, ORContinue reading “The cool part about the ‘I’ of the INTJ spectrum;”

Intercepting an INTJ’s neuronal pathway- An Anecdotal Poem


Hash they said… and the louder my synapses chimed with exciting rigor. To seal the lips of my mouth, is to magnify to voices within. Kukua anthonyin Where are your emotions, they asked…. I answered, why do you choose to bypass your cortical activity? kukua anthonyin He said, I have come to reveal to youContinue reading “Intercepting an INTJ’s neuronal pathway- An Anecdotal Poem”

The Venusian INTJ


Dr John Gray, in his book ‘Men are from Mars, women are from Venus’, must have totally missed a sub-cohort of the Venusian species or just maybe, not all women are from Venus. There is also the possibility that the INTJs might have been exiled from Venus- that would certainly be plausible. I’ve been tryingContinue reading “The Venusian INTJ”

The irrationality of jealousy; focusing on the wrong variable.


Ms X is looking at a reflection of herself in a mirror. She is wearing a white dress and a high heel. Ms Zee comes to stand right next to her, wearing the dark version of the same dress but there’s something about Zee’s dress that stands out and it doesn’t seem to have anythingContinue reading “The irrationality of jealousy; focusing on the wrong variable.”

Two steps back, one step forward; a propelling paradox?


INSPIRATION: There are two ways to perceive painful experiences; a feeling of regret, or thankfulness for lessons learned. In this paradox, I reflect on my own process of introspection. This was what seemed like hours and days of self-reflection; an analysis of the root cause of what I’d call ‘self-inflicted suffering from an internal dilemma’.Continue reading “Two steps back, one step forward; a propelling paradox?”

The 70*7 Forgiveness rule


Prior to writing this blog, I reached out to a Theologian friend of mine to find out why Peter, in Matthew 18: 21-35, suggested that forgiving 7 times was a fair standard. This is what he said; I think there was a Rabbinic debate about it and it was considered that forgiving your neighbor 3Continue reading “The 70*7 Forgiveness rule”

I’d still choose you, Love (A poem)


I’d still choose you, Love For the freedom you give For the memories you give that hold my breath still,  And for the air you propel through my trachea that is as audible as the tune from my subconscious. Because with your fresh aroma, I need no exertion With you, I just need to beContinue reading “I’d still choose you, Love (A poem)”

The communication of non-communication; building a reputation of trust and respect


This month has been special. For a month dedicated to sharing about unconditional love, it has truly been a trying one for me. I am of the opinion that the five love languages are not exhaustive and I personally believe that every person appreciates each of the five love languages to a certain extent- IContinue reading “The communication of non-communication; building a reputation of trust and respect”

A love allegory (An exposition)


A couple of months ago, I engaged friends on social media in a discussion about love and this is  a compilation of our conversation! Feel free to share your thoughts on this as well. ALLEGORY: “Like a bird freed from chains, when do you fly? The problem has never been love or the question ofContinue reading “A love allegory (An exposition)”